Much has been written about the complexities of the doctor-patient relationship and the myriad ways that both parties communicate. When patients become more frail, this relationship must expand to include their family caregivers. This addition of a third person complicates the situation in more than an additive fashion. It requires more time and energy on the part of physicians that are not without costs. Balancing both patient and caregiver needs in a time-driven and increasingly competitive world is not easy. Physicians not only need better preparation to meet the challenges of caring for frail older patients, but they also need changes in reimbursement policies so that they can afford to spend the time needed to manage the complexities inherent in the doctor-patient-family caregiver relationship. Although there is uncertainty about timing of these changes, there is no uncertainty about the complexity of the doctor-patient-family caregiver relationship. To make its management easier, the following rules are worth remembering: 1. Carefully assess problems in all domains of patient function and develop plans for managing and monitoring these problems. 2. Recognize that the effects of patient disabilities cycle between patient and caregiver. 3. Pay attention to the needs and concerns of patients and of their caregivers. 4. Provide caregivers with as much information as possible and educate them about "when to worry." 5. Assure caregivers that you are available to answer questions and help them with handling problems that arise in the care of their elders.